Preparing Kids for Summer Camp: How to Ease Anxiety and Build Confidence

For many families, summer camp is a milestone filled with excitement, growth, and new experiences. But when it comes to preparing kids for summer camp, it’s completely normal for children to feel a mix of anticipation and anxiety, even if they have been to camp before.

Whether it’s worries about making friends, trying new activities, or spending time away from home, these feelings are part of the process. The goal isn’t to eliminate nerves entirely, but rather to help your child feel supported, capable, and ready to take on something new.

Here are practical, compassionate strategies for preparing kids for summer camp in a way that builds confidence and emotional resilience.

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Start Preparing Kids for Summer Camp with Open Conversations

One of the most important steps in preparing kids for summer camp is simply talking about it. Luckily, Camp Starfish already has a blog article specifically for talking about camp for children with disabilities, or for those who may experience more anxiety than the typical camper.

Invite your child to share how they’re feeling, and be open to both the excitement and the worries. Ask open-ended questions like:

  • “What are you most looking forward to?”

  • “Is there anything you’re feeling unsure about?”

By normalizing their emotions and answering questions honestly, you help replace uncertainty with understanding, which is an essential part of building confidence.

Build Familiarity to Make Camp Feel Less Unknown

A big part of preparing kids for summer camp is helping them feel like camp isn’t a complete mystery.

You can:

  • Look at photos or videos of camp together. In addition to what you’ll find on social media, check the camp’s web page to see if they have photos of the campsite. You can find pictures of the Camp Starfish site here.

  • Review any materials the camp has about what a typical day looks like. Read through program guides, reviews, and more. You may build familiarity with certain activities that are causing your camper anxiety. For example, if your camper is worried about playing basketball with other kids, maybe they can take time before camp to practice shooting hoops on the court at the local park.

  • Ask to build familiarity with a person at camp. At Camp Starfish, we offer the opportunity for campers to speak with a director on Zoom so they have a face to recognize at camp and to ask their questions directly to someone who works there. We also offer open house events at the beginning of the summer so that campers can meet other campers and staff who will be working with them during the summer.

When children can picture what their experience might look like, it reduces anxiety and helps them mentally prepare for the experience.

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Practice Independence in Small Steps

If your child is new to being away from home, easing into independence is key when preparing kids for summer camp. Some campers experience anxiety because they don’t believe they will be able to do all of the small tasks they do each day at home without help from their parents. Talk about this with your camper, and make sure they feel confident sleeping in a new place, completing all of their hygiene tasks, and asking for help when they need it. 

For campers who need practice to feel confident in these areas, we recommend:

  • Having campers practice sleeping somewhere new by having sleepovers with friends, relatives, or even a family sleepover in the living room or in a tent in the backyard.

  • Having campers try new extracurricular activities like a new sport or afterschool club to get used to experiencing new routines and meeting new people.

  • Practicing routines like getting ready for bed independently, showering independently, and getting ready in the morning independently.

These small experiences build confidence and show children they can handle time away from home successfully.

Involve Your Child in Preparing for Camp

Another effective way of preparing kids for summer camp is giving them a sense of control over their experience. There are many ways that kids can be involved in preparing for camp.

Let your child:

  • Help pack their bags and pick out which clothes they would like to wear while they’re there.

  • Choose comfort items to bring like which stuffed animals will come with them, which photos they would like to bring to hang next to their bed, and which “special” items they can include (like a deck of cards, a journal, etc.).

  • Help your camper decide which activities they would like to do when they’re at camp. Encourage them to identify the activities they know they already enjoy doing, and also identify some that will be new to them.

Feeling involved transforms camp from something that’s “happening to them” into something they’re actively part of.

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Teach Simple Coping Strategies

Preparing kids for summer camp also means equipping them with tools they can use if they feel overwhelmed. Luckily, there are many simple coping strategies you can teach to kips to prepare them for summer camp anxiety. 

You might practice:

  • Taking slow, deep breaths. There are many fun, simple breathing exercises for kids that are available online.

  • Doing simple exercises like stretching for stress relief, or chair push-ups for a heavier task.

  • Practicing self-advocacy for when a problem cannot be solved independently.

These strategies empower children to manage challenges on their own, which is an important part of their growth.

Keep Goodbyes Calm and Confident

Drop-off day is a big moment in preparing kids for summer camp. While emotions may run high, your approach can make a big difference. Kids look toward adults to know how they should think and feel in situations. If your camper sees you feeling calm and confident, hopefully they will, too. 

Because of this, it is important that “goodbyes” before camp are:

  • Brief

  • Positive

  • Reassuring

A confident send-off communicates trust and helps your child transition more smoothly into their new environment.

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Send Comfort from Home

Even as you’re preparing kids for summer camp to be independent, a small piece of home can provide reassurance. Sending your camper to camp with pre-arranged letters or small packages to be opened from home can give them something to look forward to each day. 

Consider sending:

  • A handwritten note with encouraging words.

  • A family photo or photos of pets.

  • Printable games like crosswords or word searches.

These items can offer comfort during quiet moments and help children feel connected while they’re away.

Partner with Camp Staff for Support

When preparing kids for summer camp, especially those who may feel anxious, communication with camp staff is invaluable.

Sharing insights about your child’s personality, strengths, or concerns allows counselors to provide extra support and encouragement from day one. 

Luckily, the application process for Camp Starfish is incredibly thorough and asks about these aspects of your child proactively.

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Focus on Growth, Not Perfection

An important mindset shift in preparing kids for summer camp is helping them understand that camp doesn’t have to be perfect to be meaningful.

Encourage your child to:

  • Try something new while they are here (even if it’s something small!).

  • Introduce themselves to someone new.

  • Keep going even if something feels challenging.

Growth happens in these small, brave moments. And at Starfish, we make sure to celebrate the small wins just as much as the big wins.

Final Thoughts: Preparing Kids for Summer Camp Is Preparing Them for Life

Preparing kids for summer camp is about more than packing a bag. It’s about helping them build confidence, independence, and resilience.

It’s normal for children to feel nervous before something new. But with thoughtful preparation and support, those nerves often transform into pride, connection, and a sense of accomplishment.

And when your child returns home with new skills, friendships, and stories to tell, you’ll see that preparing kids for summer camp was the first step in something truly impactful.

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Lydia Beeler

Lydia Beeler is Camp Starfish’s Program Director, ensuring that all campers have a safe, supportive, and fun Starfish experience. Lydia joined Starfish in the summer of 2021 and has enjoyed multiple different roles on camp. With a degree in psychology from the Massachusetts College of Liberal Arts and experience in healthcare and education, she brings both knowledge and enthusiasm to her role.

Lydia is from Worcester, Massachusetts, and takes great pride in being able to pronounce her hometown. Her favorite camp activity is the closing campfire, where campers are able to reflect on and celebrate their achievements made during their time at Starfish. Her favorite Camp Starfish Tool is, “We make camp a safe place.”

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Danielle Lubbers

Danielle joined Camp Starfish in the spring of 2023 as Camp Director. Originally working with the Girl Scouts of the Chesapeake Bay, Danielle has ten years of experience providing programming to children, outdoor skills training for adults, and directing overnight summer camp experiences.

In her spare time, Danielle enjoys spending time with her two-year old Dalmatian, Mia. Danielle’s favorite activity at camp is raft building, as she enjoys seeing campers and staff work together to complete a team goal. Her favorite Camp Starfish Tool is “We are here to learn, grow, and have fun!”

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David Mahnken

David Mahnken is Camp Starfish’s Mental Health Consultant. He provides staff training each summer on topics such as self-care, trauma-informed care practices, and health & wellness. David also provides support and consultation to the organization throughout the year. David holds a BA from St. Olaf College and an MSW from Simmons University. David is a LICSW who works in emergency services in addition to his own private practice in Massachusetts.

Prior to becoming a social worker, David’s first experience at camp was as a counselor in the early 2000s before becoming an administrator and member of the year-round team. His favorite camp activity is swim-I (swim instruction), and his favorite Camp Starfish Tool is: “We make camp a safe place.”

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Joe Clark

As the Assistant Director at Camp Starfish, Joe is a seasoned professional who is well-versed in all aspects of camp life. With five years of summer work at Starfish, he brings extensive experience and expertise to the camp year-round. Joe is from the UK, and holds a degree from Keele University. Joe works as a support worker in the UK, providing care to individuals with disabilities, since 2019. Joe also engages in volunteer work, including spending three months in Abrobiano, Ghana.

Joe is known at camp for his charming English accent, which campers often try to replicate! His favorite camp activity is playing soccer (football) on the field, and his favorite Camp Starfish Tool is: “I take responsibility for my actions.”

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Rachel Roberts

Rachel Roberts is the Director of Staff Experience at Camp Starfish, responsible for all things staffing and groups. With a degree in Anthropology, and a Certificate in Global Citizenship from Franklin Pierce University, Rachel brings a unique perspective to her role. She oversees hiring, onboarding, retention, and staff appreciation for the 100+ seasonal staff at Camp Starfish each summer. Rachel has been a part of the Starfish team since 2016, working in various seasonal roles. She joined the Year-Round Team full-time in 2022.

As a lifelong New Hampshire resident, Rachel enjoys hiking in the woods with her dog, Clover. Her favorite camp activity is Free Play, and her favorite Camp Starfish Tool is: “We respect each other’s differences.”

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Kristie Martin

Kristie Martin is Camp Starfish’s Communications Director, ensuring that Starfish is able to reach a wide audience of potential campers and staff each year to further the Starfish mission. With her degree in Applied Psychology & Human Development from the Lynch School of Education at Boston College, Kristie has a deep understanding of child development and uses this knowledge to create a nurturing environment for all campers during the summer.

Kristie grew up in the Monadnock region and takes pride in being a local. Kristie’s favorite camp activity is the Camper Talent Show, which she believes is the perfect opportunity for campers to showcase their skills and feel comfortable sharing with the community. Her favorite Camp Starfish Tool is, “I try my best, I do not have to be the best.”

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Sarah Scott-Sandagato

Sarah Scott-Sandagato is the Director of Operations at Camp Starfish, joining the team in the Spring of 2022. She brings with her a wealth of professional experience working in both mental health and human resources. Sarah’s role at Camp Starfish is crucial in ensuring that camp runs smoothly, and she is available to assist families every step of the way through the registration process. If you call the Starfish office, Sarah will likely be who you speak with first!

With her dedication to helping others and her commitment to creating a positive camp experience for every child, it’s no wonder that her favorite Camp Starfish Tool is: “We are members of a team.”

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Jamie Mahnken

Jamie Mahnken is Camp Starfish’s Executive Director, and has been an integral part of the Camp Starfish community since 2010, serving in a variety of roles. With a degree in Business Administration and Organizational Leadership from Southern New Hampshire University, Jamie is committed to creating a safe and positive environment for every camper, staff member, and volunteer.

As a North Carolina native, Jamie enjoys spending time outdoors with her family. Her favorite camp activity is kayaking to Blueberry Island, which is a meaningful and memorable experience for many campers, as well. Jamie’s favorite Camp Starfish Tool is: “I am flexible and open to change.”